I’m getting really excited about the wedding, and I love how the details are all coming together, but when it comes down to it, that’s all icing on the (not too tall, no fondant and no frills please) cake. The part that really matters is the getting married part!
On Tuesday, T and I made the hike over to the county seat to pick up our marriage license. The process was far less…I don’t know, official, I guess, than I expected. Part of that was probably that they were doing renovations or something to the main building, so the office was temporarily housed in a building with a law firm. So we went in, stood waiting for someone to come for a few minutes, and then knocked on the closest door. It seems it was the right door, although we interrupted a woman eating her lunch, and she brought us in, had us swear that we weren’t related, etc, and then we filled out the forms, she printed them out (on copy paper!!), and we were done. Apparently we can get a more official-looking marriage certificate after the wedding from the state. Luckily, I have a wonderful fiance who was just as bummed as I was that there wasn’t more to it (or at least didn’t let on otherwise!), and we had lunch at the restaurant at The Brick Hotel, our reception venue, so that made it seem a little more special.
Honestly, the people at the DMV made more of a big deal about us getting married when I went in to get a DE license recently than the people at the Clerk of the Peace did! I guess they see couples in there every day, so it’s old hat to them, but I’d never done it before!! Still, once I got over my disappointment at the lack of pomp and circumstance, it still felt very momentous. All we’d technically need is the signature of a minister, and we’d be married! Obviously that won’t be until after the ceremony, but it’s a big step in the right direction, legally speaking!!
Along those lines, we got our rings in! They came in last week when I was on my way down to Richmond, so I haven’t had a chance to post about them yet, but they’re here! It took some doing to find a ring that would fit my vintage style engagement ring, and we considered having one custom made, but when we went to get T’s ring, we found some contour bands that fit the ring pretty well. There are some gaps that I guess I could get filled, but honestly it just emphasizes the cocktail ring look that I loved initially.
I also got a plain gold band for the ceremony, and to wear when I’m working or traveling in a foreign country (with the bands, my ring is a little more… noticeable than I originally planned).
We decided to pick our own bands based on what we wanted, not what would match the best — we’re not exactly the same personality-wise, so we don’t really feel the need to have the exact same band. That is definitely important for some people, and that’s great, but it just didn’t matter that much to us. So T ended up with an engraved yellow gold band, while I have white gold engagement and wedding rings. I did get yellow gold for the plain band, because the fact that it kind of fades against my skin was a bonus there.
So all of the official stuff is in line, and now it’s just finishing up the fun stuff for the wedding, and that’s it! Three more weeks!